It is so hard to make friends after college.
I have talked extensively about my excitement about meeting new people here.
I remembered undergrad. School started and all these new people are around. Everyone is excited with the promise of a new year and eager to meet new people. I figured it would be a no brainer for Mr. A to make a slew of new friends, and by association, I would make new friends.
Somewhere along the way, my plan has been thwarted.
I have several ideas about why this might be:
1. Mr. A isn’t super outgoing. It’s not that he isn’t nice. He is. But he’s very quiet around new people and isn’t one to put himself out there a lot. I, on the other hand, am usually willing to make a joke about myself to get a laugh and start talking with people. I can be shy, but in a class setting, I find comfort and that is where I have made some of my best friends.
2. I’m not in law school. This provides a couple obstacles.
A. I’m not in classes with them 16+ hours a week. I’m not studying with them in the library before, between, and after classes. Basically, it’s a proximity thing.
B. I don’t understand their “legal” jokes. Whenever we go out, they talk about law school and make law school jokes. Some I get, some I don’t. And even if I get them, hearing legal jokes aren’t funny the 100th time you hear them. I get it. You’re in law school. You understand legal things. Please don’t make every conversation about the law or making a joke about it. Ahh
3. I make friends with guys easier. I’ve talked about this issue before, but it’s still an issue. N and N that Mr. A has met and made friends with? I think their f’ing hilarious and good guys. I love when N1, Mr. A, and myself talk. He’s smart and funny and sarcastic and a smart ass. Just like me and Mr. A and all of my other friends. But I can’t very well call N1 or N2 and say, “Hey, want to go see a movie?” Not appropriate.
I’ve met a couple girls I like, but one’s boyfriend lives with her and she studies more than any person I know, so her social time is limited. The other also has a serious boyfriend, but she too studies constantly. Both girls are great, but they are 3 weeks into school. Spend an insane amount of time together, so their bonds have been made already. Every time we go out, I’m trying to play catch up. There are other girls, but they are single and when I’ve seen them out, they are either trashed and can’t speak straight, or they are hitting on the guys. (Law school really is like high school. Only with alcohol. Okay, well I guess some people had alcohol in high school, but now they aren’t worried if someone’s mom is going to come home and bust them.)
So, that’s where I am.
I think I might be SOL when it comes to law school friends. If nothing else, logistically, it’s a stretch. It’s sad that I’m deciding friendships based on logistics isn’t it? Gahhh
If only I had a job to meet people. Oh the curse words that are running through my brain… Too bad I want to be a teacher.
So, I’ll go to the outings, like the guy who is having people over Saturday for the Illini game. I’ll socialize, have a good time, and watch the game and we’ll go from there. I’ll probably even make some awesome dessert. Just for kicks.