Yep. I lied.
I don’t like doing it, but I felt I had to.
I tend to lie to make others happy. I feel this is a double edged sword at times. I want them to be happy, but they would be upset if they found out the truth. Grr.
Tonight was date night. Not a planned date night, but we decided to go out for a nice dinner, get some ice cream, and walk around by the river downtown. We try to make sure to do little romantic nights every once in a while, and we had a little extra cash, so that’s what we decided to do.
We came home and curled up to some Netflix and settled in for the night.
Until his phone started vibrating. One of his groomsmen sent a text telling fiance that he and some of the other fraternity guys were at the bar and wanted him to come up. He didn’t send anything back, but told me he was just going to stay in since it was already a little late. (Bars here close at 12pm SHARP. Moist counties are dumb….)
Well, fiance is not the stereotypical fraternity guy. He likes his brothers, but he’s not a huge party-er and doesn’t like to get drunk. Drink, yes. Drunk- not so much.
While I REALLY wanted him to stay home with me and watch movies and go to bed, we will be moving in 4 months. Fiance has grown up in the same town we go to school in, as many of his best friends. In 4 months, it will be the first time he has lived in a new place, so I knew it was a big deal for him to go tonight.
So, I lied.
I told him, “Go out. You don’t have a choice. I feel like going to bed, so just go out and see the guys since you won’t be able to call them at any minute once we move.”
He did the typical, “Are you sure?” and then sent a message back that he would be there in a few minutes. I knew he wanted to go, but he didn’t want to upset me.
To make it one better, I even drove him to the bar so he wouldn’t have to worry too much about how much he had and then driving back. I’ll be picking him up in about 1.5 hours.
So here I sit. Watching The Ugly Truth, eating ice cream and writing my blog.
Was this bad, or was it just something I needed to do?
i DO want him to have fun and get as much time with his friends as possible,but…I kind of wanted him to be here with me tonight.
And, weird as it sounds, I was friends with all the fraternity guys before we started dating. I have ALWAYS been friends with guys. I am NOT the sorority type at all. I think guys are fun and it’s easy for me to relax and be myself with guys, especially guys that are in fiance’s fraternity since they all know I’m taken. It’s great.
Also, I’ve had several really awful girl friends who have done some pretty awful things, so I’m a little cautious with girls.
But it’s also hard when they have “guys night” because that means I can’t go and I refuse to be like the other girlfriends that insist in tagging along, even when the guys don’t want them to, and then the guys complain about them later.
I’m whining. I know. I’m sorry.
I think I’m just stressed and a little lonely. I think I need a girls night. My bachelorette party is too far away…
Do you do the same for your husbands or boyfriends? Do you put aside your feelings for them to do something they want?
Goodnight. Gerard Butler is calling my name…
New Teacher. New Wife.